Today, the young generation walks hand in hand with modern technology boasting proudly about the the various ways in which we have modernised and “developed”. Even the smaller rural areas have been permeated by the technological advancement. Governments seem to be doing a lot about bridging the gaps. But has the panache of glamour and “civilisation” affected our cultures? India consists of the largest mass of population whose attainments in various areas have been praised time and again. But, have the traditional cultural norms been broadened when it comes to preliminary issues such as marriage?
The answer is NO.
Even today, no matter how far man has excelled with technology, our people still value the 16th century cultural norms handed down by their ancestors. They probably have their defences into following these ancestral rituals and procedures, for I believe these guidelines and traditions are what makes a culture. Old tradition that has been followed up, generation after generation and is unique in certain aspects, is known to us as our culture.
The problem is not about following cultures. The problem is in being ignorant. With educational advancement we must learn to adapt and take up everything positively. It has been decades since our countries fought for independence and were hailed victorious but how many of us are actually independent? Have we really got freedom of speech, freedom of will, freedom to love?
The answer yet again seems to be a NO.
Our forefathers and fathers and probably the fathers of many generations will still build walls to hold captive our own people. How many families out of 10 will allow their children to marry a partner from another country? Perhaps the ratio stands one is to ten. How many families allow love marriages? How many allow religion differences? Maybe these are bigger issues because some families do not even allow their children to marry out of caste.
Are we really enforcing a culture or compromising with the freedom of our own people.
There have been many explanations to this as well. Some give personal reasons while others stand strong behind the pillar of country and “our own kind”. When will we really bridge the gap and gain independence? We need to support our people when they make a decision for themselves by being impartial about our decisions. Parents believe they lose their children to another culture. Some fear if all people from their states or countries marry out of caste or country, their natives will perish. But at the end of the day, what we don’t realise is that, people are all made of dust and shall return to dust. No man will take back anything and all we desire is happiness. Then why not bridge the gap and ignore the indifferences and create harmony, peace and self-independence. We need to give our people the freedom to live, judge, and love.
Our life is a gift to cherish, we must not guide people into being vigilant of their good deeds and sweep it under sin’s rug, and instead we must encourage harmony by allowing people to use their utmost gift of life to the fullest without fear and pressure. Suicide, missing cases, violence etc. caused in the name of matrimony must be eradicated because after all if we look at the bigger picture, wedlock is not a problem, it is just a way to inner peace and happiness and since we are given the righteousness to contribute to the human race by god almighty, we must do so joyously.